(I will add the one for the women tomorrow.. :-o) .)
Discuss this list with your wife. Ask her to check the ones meaningful to her, & then arrange them in order of importance to her. Use the list as a basis for learning her views. Your relationship can be greatly strengthened as you learn how to use these suggestions.
1. Communicate with her; never close her out.
2. Regard her as important.
3. Do everything you can to understand her feelings.
4. Be interested in her friends.
5. Ask her opinion frequently.
6. Value what she says.
7. Let her feel your approval & affection.
8. Protect her on a daily basis.
9. Be gentle & tender with her.
10. Develop a sense of humor. Make an effort to laugh together every day.
11. Avoid sudden major changes without discussion & without giving her time to adjust.
12. Learn to respond openly & verbally when she wants to communicate.
13. Comfort her when she's down emotionally. For instance, put your arms around her & silently hold her for a few seconds without lectures or put-downs.
14. Be interested in what she feels is important in life.
15. Correct her gently & tenderly—speaking the truth in LOVE.
16. Allow her to teach you without putting up your defenses.
17. Make special time available to her & your children.
18. Be trustworthy.
19. Compliment her often.
20. Be creative when you express your love, either in words or actions.
21. Have specific family goals to achieve together for each year.
22. Let her buy things she considers necessary.
23. Be forgiving when she offends you.
24. Show her you need her.
25. Accept her the way she is; discover her uniqueness as special.
26. Admit your mistakes; don't be afraid to be humble. She'll appreciate that!
27. Defend her to others—especially to her family.
28. Allow your wife to fail; discuss what went wrong after you've comforted her.
29. Rub her feet or neck, or scratch her back after a hard day.
30. Take time for the two of you to sit & talk calmly.
31. Go on romantic outings.
32. Write her a letter occasionally, telling her how much you love her.
33. Surprise her with a card or flowers.
34. Express how much you appreciate her.
35. Tell her how proud you are of her.
36. Give advice in a loving way when she asks for it.
37. Lead your family in their spiritual relationship with God.
38. Prefer her to others—giving her your attention & your time whenever possible.
39. Don't expect her to do projects beyond her capabilities.
40. Pray for her to enjoy God's best in life.
41. Take time to notice what she has done for you & the family.
42. Brag about her to other people, both in front of her & behind her back.
43. Share your thoughts & feelings with her.
44. Tell her about your job if she's interested.
45. Take time to see how she spends her day, at work or at home.
46. Take care of the kids before dinner.
47. Learn to enjoy what she enjoys.
48. Help straighten up the house before mealtime.
49. Let her take a bubble bath while you do the dishes.
50. Understand her physical limitations & help her with the children.
51. Discipline the children in love, not anger.
52. Help her finish her goals, hobbies, & education.
53. Treat her as if God had stamped on her forehead, "Handle with Care".
54. Work to get rid of habits that annoy her.
55. Be gentle & thoughtful to her relatives.
56. Don't compare her relatives with yours in a negative way.
57. Thank her for things she has done without expecting anything in return.
58. Don't expect a band to play whenever you help with the housecleaning.
59. Make sure she understands everything you're planning to do.
60. Do little things for her—an unexpected kiss, coffee in bed.
61. Treat her as an intellectual equal.
62. Surprise her by asking her to give you a list of 3 things she'd like done around the house within the next month. And then make it your goal to do them.
63. Discover her fears in life.
64. See what you can do to eliminate those fears.
65. Discover her sexual needs.
66. Surprise her with a 15 second kiss.
67. Find out what makes her insecure.
68. Plan your future together.
69. Don't quarrel over words, but try to find hidden meanings.
70. Practice common courtesies like holding the door for her, & pouring her coffee.
71. Ask her if you offend her sexually in any way.
72. Go out of your way to help her feel valued over anyone else.
73. See if she's uncomfortable about the way money is spent.
74. Take her on dates now & then. You dated her before you married which helped you to fall in love, now date each other to STAY in love.
75. Hold her hand in public.
76. Put your arm around her in front of friends.
77. Tell her love her often.
78. Remember anniversaries, birthdays, & other special occasions.
79. Go shopping with her. (And don't keep looking at what time it is when you go with her. That will be a pleasant surprise to her).
80. Make it a point to teach her to hunt & fish or whatever you enjoy doing if that's important to her.
81. Surprise her by giving her a special gift from time to time.
82. Share the responsibilities around the house.
83. Don't belittle her feminine characteristics.
84. Let her express herself freely, without fear of being called stupid or illogical.
85. Carefully choose your words, especially when angry.
86. Don't criticize her in front of others—keeping her dignity in tact.
87. Don't become excited about the physical features of another woman because that dishonors her.
88. Be sensitive to her needs—looking for ways to bless her.
89. Let her know you want to spend special time with her & the kids.
90. Fix dinner for her from time to time.
91. Be sympathetic when she's sick—and help her however you can.
92. Call her when you're going to be late.
93. Honor her by not disagreeing with her in front of the children.
94. Take her out to dinner & for weekend getaways.
95. Do the " little things" she needs from time to time.
96. Give her special time alone with her friends.
97. Buy her what she considers an intimate gift.
98. Read a book she recommends to you.
99. Give her engraved plaque assuring her of your lasting love.
100. Write her a poem about how special she is.
In South Africa today security plays a vital part in any business or private home. This book and the volumes to follow, will guide you step by step through the essential precautionary measures to be taken in protecting your family and valuables. From employing security guards, evacuation of your site and security measures to burglar bars and alarms in your private home.
a Book compiled by me from experience gained after 10 years in the security industry as Industrial relations officer with Nosa qualifications, 1st Aid, fire protection and also S.O.B. grade A.
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