As you’ve not said it in so many words, I thought I’d say it for you…
....Rules to apply when interacting with me in conversation:
1. When you are addressing me, remember that my time is precious. I do not have the need or the inclination to listen to longwinded accounts or blow-by-blow descriptions of events. You might find that the colourful or in-depth explanation of exactly what happened, is important, but I view it of no consequence. It is a mere distraction from the point you are attempting to bring across. I do not find it interesting or amusing, and it forces me to spend more time and effort in your company – time that I could’ve used for something important. Keep your accounts factual, concise and summarised, as I am not really inclined to be neither entertained nor held-up by you
2. Do not expect me to react after your time-consuming relay of events. I If you were intending to get a quick response, your question should have been quick and to the point. Having endured your long drawn-out version has not entertained me. My mind started wandering during your first sentence. If you have in fact asked a question during your approach, you should’ve engaged my attention for the mere duration thereof only
3. Do not attempt to entertain me. Leave that up to the professionals. As explained in the first paragraph, I do not have time to waste
4. When I do however, explain or account anything in your presence, please ensure that your facial expressions are telltale of entertainment, intrigue, interest and concentration. I would take exception to any deviation
5. I am good. I know it. I have been told that since childhood. I will be telling you this every opportunity I get. I have been mastering all kinds of challenges in my life. I achieved the set goals and far surpassed all expectation. See my example...-Use it. Do not take exception to being reminded of this often, for reasons explained in paragraph 6
6. I do not take responsibility for how or what I say. If you do not have the ability to read my mind to find the true intentions of what I say, that is your problem. There are five useless applications for human interactions a) sensitivity b) diplomacy c) tact d) being considerate e) tone of voice. I think they are unimportant and the responsibility with all of them lies solely on the shoulders of the recipient or as the case may be, the person with whom I am conversing. I have better things to do with my time, than to worry how people perceive me. They have to listen to what I say, I know what I’m talking about, and stop constantly wondering what I could have meant with my attitude, body language or tone of voice
7. Before embarking on a conversation with me, please review all the above rules so that it could be applied appropriately. It take no responsibility for any deviations to the rule, in fact I would be sure to place any subsequent blame solely upon your shoulders
8. If I ask you a question, please do not digress. I want a precise, concise answer. Bearing all the necessary rules in mind, also remember to enunciate and speak in a clear and at all times, impartial tone of voice. I do take exception if your tone is coloured by any discomforts or pains you might be experiencing. After all, you have been advised of the rules
9. Chances are that I would be walking away during any of the abovementioned. Do not see this as a personal insult. I am just not aware of you….you are as unimportant as your feelings.
10. Good luck. Do not harbour any hope of ever getting this right, you haven’t for years. But remain blamed, I am not changing. This has always worked well for me
....So, my dear sir, I have taken the time to jot your rules down, as I am unable to remember them all by heart. Your actions do make up a lot of what you say, contrary to what you believe. It is not what you say, but what you don’t say…
In South Africa today security plays a vital part in any business or private home. This book and the volumes to follow, will guide you step by step through the essential precautionary measures to be taken in protecting your family and valuables. From employing security guards, evacuation of your site and security measures to burglar bars and alarms in your private home.
a Book compiled by me from experience gained after 10 years in the security industry as Industrial relations officer with Nosa qualifications, 1st Aid, fire protection and also S.O.B. grade A.
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