Unfamiliar feelings have been threatening my moods lately and I’m finding it more and more difficult to hide them. It’s like my life has come to a standstill and I don’t remember how to laugh or live anymore.
It all has to do with MIL and her illness and more than that it has to do with the fact that she lives in our house. Day by day she becomes weaker and precisely as Shakespeare described in “All the world’s a stage” from the play “As you like it” she is now nearing her last scene, her second childhood.
“Last scene of all, That ends this strange eventful history, is second childishness and mere oblivion. Sans teeth, sans eyes, sans taste, sans everything.”
I know that I have to force my mind away from these negative thoughts otherwise I’ll never make it. The only way that I know of coping is by looking to children for guidance. Kids get so much pleasure from the little things in life and they always see the positive side of a situation. For example, in an attempt to comfort me, my little granddaughter Max assured me that when Ouma does go up there… Oupa will be there to open the door to heaven for her.
A child’s smile can brighten up the gloomiest heart. Their sweet voices when they sing and make up their own silly words can make you laugh and cry at the same time. When you run with them against a gale of wind, spreading your arms as if in flight and run until you fall on the ground laughing, that is the best therapy in the entire universe!
Children are here to teach us adults how to love life and how the simplest things can bring us great pleasure.
DH Lawrence wrote, “I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself.”
That’s it! Self-pity is a great substitute for drugs; it numbs the pain and allows you to indulge in sad thoughts. Safe in your own pathetic little dreary world!
It’s addictive you know, show me anyone who will admit to having it. I should start my own Blues club, “Self Pity Anonymous.”
"Hi, my name is so-and-so and I'm a self pity addict."
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