I have had my fair share of knocks, disappointments and heartache in my life, and more often than I care to remember I have cried myself to sleep. I have known the intense sorrow of losing a sister I loved to suicide, and I have seen all my dreams shattered. But nothing can compare to the anguish I felt on that day eighteen months ago when my daughter, already in the third trimester of pregnancy phoned to tell me that the baby was dead!
She was admitted to hospital and the baby was removed by caesarean section. The diagnosis was “Abruptio Placentae” a condition that causes the placenta to separate from the inner wall of the uterus before the baby is born this should only happen after the birth. This was sudden and the shock was great both to the expectant parents and to the doctor.
My poor child’s sorrow was overwhelming, and the worst was that I had no answer to her question ‘why?’ All her dreams were gone, shattered in the deathly silence of that last ultrasound!
I have often heard people say that it wasn’t as if the baby was already a person, but to her the baby was real and there was already a bond between them. Now she will never hold her baby in her arms, nor will she experience the beauty of baby’s first smile, or the delight of baby’s first step.
I tried to help her through her grieving process as best I could. We packed away the baby clothes and cried for our little baby girl who didn’t make it, and who will always have a special place in our hearts.
After some sad and difficult months she pulled through, just as I knew she would, and I am very proud of her.
What it boils down to is that she is six weeks pregnant and quite excited about it. Although there is a huge possibility of her losing the baby again, she felt that she wanted one last chance at being a mom.
This time they are aware of the risks involved and should she lose her baby the shock will not be as great as it was before, although she knows it will be sad.
I will be so grateful if everyone reading this article could send up a small prayer for her. Hopefully she too will experience the miracle of life and the joy of holding that precious baby in her arms.
In South Africa today security plays a vital part in any business or private home. This book and the volumes to follow, will guide you step by step through the essential precautionary measures to be taken in protecting your family and valuables. From employing security guards, evacuation of your site and security measures to burglar bars and alarms in your private home.
a Book compiled by me from experience gained after 10 years in the security industry as Industrial relations officer with Nosa qualifications, 1st Aid, fire protection and also S.O.B. grade A.
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